There are a few things that are a bit different in English communications. One is that in the Chinese language there is no difference between HE AND SHE. So often you might here a woman described as He or a man described as She….although most likely “He” is used. Another example is: You may ask “We aren’t going to the Great Wall today?” and the guide might answer simply “Yes”. She or he really means. “Yes, we are not going to the Great Wall today”. Speaking slowly and asking for clarification will be very helpful when conversing with Chinese people. The book above “Encountering the Chinese” is the best book I have found that describes many of the differences in our peoples and how to handle them properly without either losing face. Difficult to find sometimes, I have purchased a supply of these books available at $25 postage paid if you are not able to find it in your city. The book is divided into two parts. Part I is Advice for Americans interacting with the Chinese. Part II Advice for Americans living and Working in China describing every possible situation including gift giving and receiving. dress, Foreign teachers, being entertained and what is expected. I have found this book the most invaluable tool for myself personally with my relationships in China. You may order it by sending your check or money order for $25 to Interlake China Tours, Inc. P.O. Box 33652 Seattle, WA. 98133 China Tours is my business as a Tours to China Tour Operator for over 20 years of doing China and Tibet only.